This fear caused them to seldom date and keep female relationships plutonic and confusing. Ask any Christian woman over the age of 22 how she feels about Christian men’s dating game and she’ll most likely confirm what I’m witnessing. In looking for “The One”, Christian men can easily get caught not asking women out AT ALL because she might not be “The One”. (Novel idea, I know.) The issue that many men run into, I know I did, is over spiritualizing the dating process. ” Praying about your dating life is of course advised, but there is such a thing as too much praying. Ask her out in person or over the phone (no texting).
Stop over praying and overanalyzing and start asking!
I was talking with a group of Christian men the other day and was given astonishing insight into the current dating scene. I’ve found myself wondering how do I encourage my brothers to GET OUT THERE and date. Group hangouts are great, but find time for one on one where your intentions are clear.
As I sat down with them to talk about life, I found something concerning: none of them were asking women out. Some had text-based relationships, but most of them were fearful of “messing up” or “ending up with the wrong one”. I’ve heard from Christian women that they either have said no to dating altogether (because the Christian guys don’t do any asking) or go on dates with men who aren’t Christians (because at least they are asking). I, too, was more of a prayer than a dater, until I had a number of older men sit me down and tell me to stop being afraid and take a girl to coffee. Real Christian men are needed to step up in this area. ” “What if I don’t like her after we date for a few weeks? Dating 101: Start by finding a girl who you think is interesting and attractive.
For myself, I fell for this myth hook, line, and sinker, for two reasons.
One, I was shy with guys and stepping out was uncomfortable and scary.
My man should be family-oriented and I'm a simple person who is interested in true friendship and I spend my day good I'm very serious about my health.