The Older You Get, The Quicker Stuff Moves I’ve commented before about some of my original 30 Dates, and just how much their lives have changed in the 18 months since the challenge ended. One guy who asked me out during the challenge (but who I turned down, because I knew him already) even has a child now! And so, whilst 6 months may seem rather ‘new’ when you’ve been with your husband over 10 years, when you’ve been single (and picky!
) in your thirties, getting to the 6 month marker with someone is a rather big deal.
Looking for a tip or two on how to tackle the dating scene? Yes, we live in a modern world in which women can pay for themselves and open their own door. DON'T be overly influenced by expectations of family and friends such as, “Does she practice the same religion?
Then you've probably noticed the onslaught of search engine results when you Google the phrase "dating dos and don'ts." Yikes! DON'T convince yourself you only have one "type." DO widen your definition of a compatible mate. Still, it's nice when the man foots the bill after a dinner date. Is he the same race, or does he have the desired financial/educational status?
Over 300 million results bombard the computer screen. Open yourself to the possibility that you can fall in love with someone who doesn't perfectly meet the criteria that you believe is your ideal or particular "type." 2. DO approach others with curiosity, kindness, and compassion. Watch yourself for behaviors that could be constured as needy, desperate, unstable, or otherwise undesirable. Telling a potential mate how much you really, really like them adds a lot of unnecessary pressure! Likewise, ladies shouldn't try to be just one of the guys. ” Do find a balance with considering the opinions of others, while staying in touch with your own intuition regarding who is a compatible match for you.
It seems everyone's an expert on relationships and human behavior, or are they? Premature dismissals of someone are a one-way ticket to overlooking a potentially great love match. Instead, gradually reveal your inner thoughts, feelings, and personal story starting with light and casual then progressing to deeper, more intimate self-disclosures. When you acknowledge your wants and needs, it’s more likely you’ll land a lasting relationship. DON'T get lost talking about yourself and your past, including the mistakes, heartaches, who you were ten years ago or even in your last relationship.
Here, the advice IS coming from actual experts and in this case, six bona fide therapists! Ditch the long laundry list written by everyone else, but you! When getting to know someone in a new relationship, they want to know who you are today not how you were in a past relationship or lifetime.