“Dating is always fun, but eventually it gets old when you don't take anyone seriously, or no one is taking you seriously,” Elle says.“You start to see that in the end you really are still alone.”I recently felt the pang of loneliness as I sat post-coital on the edge of my bed with “The Best” and told him that I’ve realized maybe having sex with someone who wouldn’t come visit me in the hospital (where I was briefly on New Year’s Eve day for some lady problems, fun!
“I could only juggle three people at a time for one-month spans before it got out of hand — someone would freak out or want commitment,” she says.
“I dated someone for nine months that came out of a rotation.
While, it's been fun and I've learned a lot, I'm thinking that maintaining a rotation isn’t the best thing for me right now. Atypical relationship models work for many people — even if they’re temporary.
Because, really, whether or not dating many-a-partner is something you think you can handle, the most vital thing is to focus on your emotional and physical well-being. As with any romantic scenario, it’s important to have regular mental check-ins with yourself to determine whether the pros outweigh the cons.
“I feel like I would stop immediately if I met someone I really liked.” Gretchen, a former multi-dater who is now in a committed, long-term relationship, says: “Having a rotation worked for me, and I had fun.