The question is, whose definition of highly qualified are we talking about? You're demonstrating that you know how to do this whole taking-care-of-a-woman thing from the start.
Certainly not mine, and according to the women in my circles, not theirs either.
Now, if you're laid out in a hot tub in a beautiful bathroom with a view of the ocean behind it, that's a different story. For goodness sake, what kind of lazy introduction is that? Taking pix of yourself on the way to being drunk off your ass is not inspiring. You might be God's gift to the party girl, but how are you with a real woman, outside the bar? Do you really want to see all the men I've been with before? If you find yourself listing the faults of all your exes, get counseling or coaching. And chances are, you've been the source of all that drama you claim you don't want. Please have photos that were taken at least within the past year or two.
Look, we do want to see your hot bod, but get a friend to take a few pix at the gym or a sporting event. We really don't want to think about what went on in there before or after you took the picture. Write more than a paragraph if you actually want a date. But if you check the box "wants a relationship" and then don't take the time and effort to write a decent profile, the message we receive is: "I'm looking for a hookup" and "I use love to get sex." Actually, that last part is giving you too much credit -- it would require self-awareness. Sure, it works at a party; we're face-to-face, making eye contact. Take off your sunglasses and let us see the real you. We're not in college anymore and this isn't a frat. Stop putting up pix of you with the gaggle of girls you were hanging out with during your drunken escapades. Hey, let's face it: You're the consistent factor in all your relationships. There's nothing worse than showing up and discovering that I can't even recognize you in the restaurant.
The rate of message responses jumps by 52 percent at the mention of divorce or separation.
So go ahead and be honest about those kinds of things. If you have a foot fetish or a hardcore drug habit, maybe save that for date number...never.
Yes, selfies have become an ingrained part of our culture, but you should keep them on Instagram where they belong.