When I first became a solo mum, I thought the only way I’d find a man would be if he appeared miraculously between the back door and the clothesline.
Sandi Paterson is a freelance journalist based in Tauranga.
She lives in a 1950's bach with her daughter, a grumpy cat, and a budgie who sits on her computer when she writes.
Anne Malcolm, a senior counsellor with Relationship Services, says single parents must realise that the children come first and that any new relationship has to fit around them.
“People don’t like to hear that when they’re in love,” she says.
While originally New Zealand was only Maori, later it became bicultural with colonial and rural values.