Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, Loveflutter’s relationship psychologist. “Wit is sexier than looks, and unlike looks it determines long-term compatibility.” The current crop of picture-perfect dating apps, such as Tinder and Grindr, emphasize face value.
“You go hang out with one girl, but the whole time you’re wondering if the other hot girl in the corner is watching you,” admits Ben Roth, 25, from Midwood.
“I’m not proud of it, but it happens.” Amber Soletti, who spent four years looking for love in the city, agrees.
She has been haunted by guys who “ghost” her, or suddenly stop returning her texts.
“What’s really common in New York is this accepted culture of disappearing on people,” she gripes. “In person, there would be no chemistry,” she says.
Enter “Paper Bag Speed Dating” at the New York Hall of Science on Wednesday, where participants meet potential matches by donning the humble lunch tote.