You need to become linguistically eloquent and subtle.
You need to know how to flirt and write about ordinary things, not go right for the source and give her crude messages.
We lived in a conservative society and religious and the angst of bringing our relationship in the open took time.
I think both our parents had a different vision of who we should marry.
She was from a farming family from a village and I was from a big city. However, modern technology of mobile phones (she had a Nokia and I had a Samsung) with the expression of written messages from the heart, we built a rapport.